I must say since my last post, time seems to have slipped so quickly away from me. No wonder they say “time flies”, but nonetheless, after having lost my father life is slowly getting back to normal.
Since my last article on “gratitude” I have spent some time over the very hot summer thinking., I have been thinking about how thankful I was for my late Dad. Also my mum, sister, my own family and friends, I realise I wouldn’t be at all grateful if it weren’t for them. I don’t see my family all that often, except for those who live with me here in Switzerland. Every time we visit South Africa I am really grateful to be reminded of where I have come from. I am really thankful for all we have, and most especially that I am able to believe in myself and do the work I love to do.
If you know my story or have read it, you’ll understand why. It is partly because of who I am becoming and partly because I believe I have a destiny and a purpose. A friend once joked that our purpose in life is finding our purpose, may turn out to be true
John F. Kennedy once said,
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.
Living by what you “utter” must be one of the hardest things to do. People who don’t are referred to as hypocrites. How hard is it not to be a hypocrite. Yet in many ways, it may also be the easiest thing to do by habit.
It doesn’t work if I don’t believe in it.
I meet plenty of negative people who complain a lot about many different issues they face and what they see in the world. I used to be one of them. You may know a few people like this too. Whatever their perceived problem or questions about life and work, I try my hardest to give people “actionable advice”. Advice that would help them overcome the challenges they mention or issues they face. But I often hear that this or that won’t work for me, or I can’t do that, I am not good enough, I have no money, or I don’t think that solution will work and so on and on we forge excuses into limiting beliefs.
However, I think there is a lot more at work here.
Some people are simply determined to Fail!
Through people’s responses, I just mentioned above there’s an undertone of self-doubt and lack of confidence. On analysis, I believe the unspoken thought that drives the questions are, “I don’t believe these ideas will work for me.” Or maybe, “I don’t believe I can make these ideas work for me. I don’t believe in myself”.
No matter how large or small the ideas are that one is trying to change, the fear or lack of belief in yourself will limit you and the opportunities you are exposed to. I often question people why they feel or think this way.
The biggest difference with successful people and high achievers (in health, in business, and in life) is that they are determined to make a situation work for them rather than playing the role of the victim and searching for reasons why a situation or idea won’t work. They believe in themselves.
Of course, I understand that not every idea will work for every person on the planet, but many ideas can work for most people if you believe that you can make them work. You have to be willing to think differently and to also to experiment with new ideas and trust that you’ll discover a way to make them work.
Believing in Yourself!
2 main habits high achievers have according to Darren Hardy of Success magazine is that they are willing to learn and believe that the goals they set can be achieved. Sometimes that’s also a problem because I think we can set goals beyond what we believe we can achieve.
We all deal with vulnerability, uncertainty, and failure. Some of us trust that if we move forward anyway, we’ll figure it out. As I’m writing this, I am not where I want to be, but I am definitely not where I was a year ago and I am so grateful for what I havelearned. We have to remember how far we have come, not just how far we have to go. You may not be where you want to be, but you’re not where you used to be!
I didn’t know what I was going to do when I lost my job 4 years ago. At my age it’s almost impossible to get a job in Switzerland anyway. I picked myself up, started a journey of self-education and figured it out.
I started a business that sounded awesome. It would make me some money. I wasn’t qualified to do it and so I trusted and believed in myself that I would figure it out anyway. That’s how Richard Branson figured it out. Most successful people figure it out and you can too.
Richard Branson said this,
If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!
I believed in myself. I didn’t have confidence. Confidence came with experience and it’s made the difference for me. Just a simple belief in myself. Learn it and do it. Confidence soon arrives on your doorstep.
Do you believe change is possible for you?
One of the fundamental beliefs in the communities I am involved with is that you can become better at what you do. We believe it’s possible to improve. Raise the bar in your own life, even if others around you accept the average. Growth means you will have a better tomorrow. We believe in ourselves and in each other. We believe that if you want better health or more happiness or a more meaningful job that you can make those things happen.
Because of what we believe, we are willing to test, experiment, and try new things even when we feel uncertain and a lack confidence. If you don’t believe that it’s possible to make new things work, then it’s going to be hard to make any progress. I don’t care how good your ideas are, nothing will work for you if you don’t believe in it. And more importantly, nothing will work for you if you don’t believe in yourself.
Here’s a great example how surrounding yourself with positive people can affect your performance and belief in yourself – the results are incredible.